Favorite Quotes

“If growing up is painful for the Southern Black girl, being aware of her displacement is the rust on the razor that threatens the throat. It is an unnecessary insult.”

"Be the change you wish to see in the world."

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

"...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you; we are in charge of our attitudes."

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Me & Me

I convinced myself of your rarity and then held onto you as if letting go meant devastation. "This is special...It's worth fighting for...It's worth hurting for...It's worth settling for...It's worth waiting for...He is special..." I conditioned me and credited you for my influence, but you did not conquer me. I gamed, manipulated, and subdued myself; you were just the beneficiary of my self-deceit. Too faithless and inpatient to wait for better, too lazy to prepare for better, and too self-loathing to accept better, I created that dysfunction and wallowed in it. I decided it was okay to adjust my standards to fit the woman I was rather than adjust my attitude and behavior to suit the woman I want to be. On the surface, everything appeared to be about you and me, but it was actually about me and me. My relationship with myself made the relationship with you possible, but the two are mutually exclusive. As I focus and love on me, anything I have for you minimizes and suffocates, and I will love me 'til the detriment of us.