"What's the role of a man, LeKechia?"
It was yet another pop quiz from my father.
"Guide, provide, protect" I respond.
We have done this for as long as I can remember.
He asks a question; I answer it.
He starts a statement; I finish it
Telling him what he's taught me.
Often I did not agree and vocalized my objections.
"Keep on living, baby"
His standard response to my passionate opinions.
The older I get the more I refrain.
This is our thing, so I entertain him,
Half amused, half delighted.
"If you have to work..."
He was waiting for me.
"You might as well get paid." I respond.
Favorite Quotes
“If growing up is painful for the Southern Black girl, being aware of her displacement is the rust on the razor that threatens the throat. It is an unnecessary insult.”
"Be the change you wish to see in the world."
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
"...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you; we are in charge of our attitudes."
“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
Thursday, January 19, 2017
Our Thing
Wednesday, January 18, 2017
My Body Discriminates
My body discriminates.
It detects the sound of your silence
And impact of your auditory impressions.
It reads the prints of your touch
And knows the feel of your presence.
It speaks your body's language
And hears the rhythm of your motions.
It translates your nonverbal cues
And responds to your emotions.
It favors the taste of your kiss
And certifies the quality of your lips.
It catches traces of your fragrance
And embraces your scent.
My body discriminates.
It knows you,
Intimately and completely.
My body finds you preferable.
Everything about you,
To my body, is perceptible.
Saturday, January 14, 2017
14 Days In
Today is my 14th day not including meat in my diet. That's not a long time, but I want this to be a lifelong decision. Like so many people, I grew up eating meat, and it has always been big portion of my diet. After taking a class on sustainability, calculating my environmental footprint, and learning about the abuse and cruelty animals raised for food are made to suffer, I know this is the right decision. Additionally, I would like to be healthier, and I believe a plant-based diet is the way for me to achieve this. I was on Peta's website looking for information and came across this powerful statement:
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"In his book Animal Liberation, Peter Singer states that the basic principle of equality does not require equal or identical treatment; it requires equal consideration. This is an important distinction when talking about animal rights. People often ask if animals should have rights, and quite simply, the answer is “Yes!” Animals surely deserve to live their lives free from suffering and exploitation. Jeremy Bentham, the founder of the reforming utilitarian school of moral philosophy, stated that when deciding on a being’s rights, “The question is not ‘Can they reason?’ nor ‘Can they talk?’ but ‘Can they suffer?’” In that passage, Bentham points to the capacity for suffering as the vital characteristic that gives a being the right to equal consideration. The capacity for suffering is not just another characteristic like the capacity for language or higher mathematics. All animals have the ability to suffer in the same way and to the same degree that humans do. They feel pain, pleasure, fear, frustration, loneliness, and motherly love. Whenever we consider doing something that would interfere with their needs, we are morally obligated to take them into account."
Nights Like Tonight
On nights like tonight
When you find it hard to sleep
I'll stay awake with you.
We can talk about anything.
Or absolutely nothing...
We can laugh until it hurts;
We can have serious discussions.
Play your favorite songs;
Sing along if you desire.
I don't care that you're out-of-tune;
Your happiness is melodic.
Read the definitions
Of words you learned today.
I love how the dictionary
Puts a smile on your face.
And when you're ready to write,
I'll sit, patiently and quiet,
Reading your body language
As catharsis arrives.
I enjoy your quirks;
I love how your mind works.
On nights like tonight,
You clear your thoughts,
Reserving nothing from me,
And I witness the openness
You issue with exclusivity.
Friday, January 13, 2017
Remedying the Regrets
Humility, her newfound companion,
Offered her the gift of self-understanding,
Ending the lifelong discord within.
She took ownership of her decisions,
Reconciled with the consequences,
Extended grace to herself,
And accepted a bounty of chances
For trial-and-error;
Learning and growth;
Appreciation of her progress
While realizing how far she must go.
Empowered to stand transparent in her truth,
And disclose herself fully to you,
She silenced the depreciating voice of shame.
The experiences challenged her;
She knew she had changed,
And for that she was grateful.
Gratefulness for the lessons
Remedied the regrets.
Monday, January 9, 2017
Finally
Loving you is wrong;
It could never be right.
I accept it.
I won’t help you
Fool me. Tonight,
Reality has set in.
This is goodbye,
Finally.
That Place
Where no skeletons are buried
And all memories unborn
Where no secrets are hidden
And there's no reason for scorn
Where all faces are strange
And all glances meaningless
Where no one knows my name
And freedom is infinite...
Take me to that place