Favorite Quotes
“If growing up is painful for the Southern Black girl, being aware of her displacement is the rust on the razor that threatens the throat. It is an unnecessary insult.”
"Be the change you wish to see in the world."
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
"...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you; we are in charge of our attitudes."
“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
Saturday, September 10, 2022
Mr. Gary
I was a receptionist. His husband, Jason, was the Assistant Director of Nursing. Often Jason would be called in while they were out somewhere together.
Due to some vision and health issues, he did not drive. Instead, he'd wait in the lobby, always patient, always pleasant. We'd chat. We became friends.
He was always so sweet and kind to me.
One day, he came into the hospital with a homemade, baked from scratch, strawberry cake. He said it was for me. It was made with love. I knew it.
And, it was so freaking delicious.
I had one slice of that love and shared it with my mom, aunt, and others who I cannot remember all these years later. I remember the goodness, literal and figurative goodness. I remember the kindness. I was so taken back by the pure thoughtfulness.
The only thing he asked is that I return the antique cake dish.
I was newly separated, going through a divorce, and other things few people knew about. It was among the most difficult times of my life, and Mr. Gary baked me a cake just because. The part of me that still has faith still believes that that is what the love of God looks and feels like.
Rest so peacefully, Mr. Gary.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Mr. Jason.
Thank you both for thinking of me as your "baby girl."
I do not have a picture of this dear, sweet man that is mine to share. Instead, I'll share what I have...