Favorite Quotes

“If growing up is painful for the Southern Black girl, being aware of her displacement is the rust on the razor that threatens the throat. It is an unnecessary insult.”

"Be the change you wish to see in the world."

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

"...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you; we are in charge of our attitudes."

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

Sunday, July 18, 2021

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap

When she is humble, he wants a savage.
When she's savage, he wants a lady.
When he clings, she pushes him away.
As he withdraws she wants him available. 
When she is quiet, he talks freely.
His words are sparse when she requests conversation.
When she is ready for war, he calls peace.
He picks up arms as she declares an armistice. 
They are in a cycle of mutual exacerbation,
So their relationship is filled with agitation.
They are not Yin and Yang, 
Complimentary opposites.
They deadlocked –
In conflicting attachments.