Favorite Quotes

“If growing up is painful for the Southern Black girl, being aware of her displacement is the rust on the razor that threatens the throat. It is an unnecessary insult.”

"Be the change you wish to see in the world."

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

"...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you; we are in charge of our attitudes."

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Soapbox: Consensual Cunnilingus

NEWSFLASH:
■ Women can be sexual and educated, self-loving, ethical, secure, stable, and successful.
■ Exploration of sexuality does not bar a woman from being a wife. 
■ Every woman does not desire marriage.

Why does society feel authorized to (1) lead the conversation regarding the sexuality of women and (2) dictate to women a biased view on how to express themselves sexually? Can we take a moment to examine this widespread hypocrisy?

Women who explore their sexuality are frequently typecast as "sluts," "whores," "hoes," "tramps," altogether devoid of standards, and undeserving of "good men." Women who abstain from sexual activity are often typecast as "teases," "prudes," "immature," "afraid," "sexually ignorant," or have "impossibly high standards." 

Oh, I see.

Women just need to maintain a socially acceptable amount of sexuality. We need to pique sexual interests while being careful not to display overt sexual attitudes and behaviors. We don't need to make anyone feel uncomfortable by the knowledge that women, like men, are sexual beings. 😩🤔🙄

Fuck that, sexism, and imposed gender norms! While we are at the expletive portion of this rant, fuck heteronormativity too! Society take your double standards; we do not need them. If you don’t have a vagina, please stop policing them. Unless you are engaged in consensual cunnilingus, keep your nose out of a woman's intimate business.